Best Ever New Years Resolution: Three Steps

admin - Wednesday, January 9, 2013


The stats vary, but somewhere between 55% and 92% of people fail to keep their New Year’s resolve. So, DON’T MAKE RESOLUTIONS.  But, do continue to BE RESOLUTE, and resolving anew each day.

Hint: Resolution is a noun.  You can’t DO a ‘noun’. Use verbs and make them end with ‘ing’, ie ‘I am resolving to …‘.

I’d like to share what’s worked for me …

In January 2008, I did a thing called ‘Pseudo Orientation in Time’. It’s a bit like time travel in the movie, ‘Back to the Future’, but only inside your own mind. Even though I enjoyed it, I thought it was just a ‘mind game’. But when I got to the end of 2008 the results blew me away! As I looked back on the year I realised that, even without resolve, I had achieved everything and hadn’t even tried. In fact I hadn’t even notice I had achieved the goal, until I was sitting in that future time reflecting back and realised, ‘OMG, it just happened’. That was pretty freaky.

There are three main steps to setting up your goal so you program your mind to get the results: Activate your Vales, Clarify your Outcome and Install it as a Program.

I’ll start with the last step: The Programming. You go forward in time to the point when you are achieving your goal, then go past that point in time and look back to see yourself achieving and reflect on how you feel about that achievement. This process has been refined by Peter Thompson of Apt Ventures. He refers to this as, ‘Advanced Hindsight’.

Einstein is quoted as saying, “Anything the mind can conceive AND BELIEVE, it can achieve.” This process helps not only with conceiving it, but gives the mind an experience it can believe.

But, here is the scary thing … we’re doing this all the time, whether we realise it or not. We are doing it every day, but we’re often installing damaging things. I hear people say things like, “I’ve got so much on. I’m going to be exhausted at the end of the day”,  and that comes true. “I just have to put my head down and ‘PUSH THROUGH’.” What an awful program to install in yourself!

So, before your install anything, Step 2: Clarify the Outcome. You don’t want to install the program before you check a few things. Just suppose for a moment,‘ you always get what you ask for’, then you need to check the quality of what you’re asking for or you may get something you don’t want.

There are 7 keys to setting up your mind in a way it can do what you want.

Here is one of the seven keys as an example: Your goal must be a positive (toward) statement like, “I want to be slim/fit/energised”,  NOT negative (away) like, “I want to lose weight/stop smoking/get rid of this fat/not be exhausted”.

Just ask yourself, which one of these statements is inspiring and which is de-energising and hard?  The other six keys I’ll blog about at another time or you can attend one of my trainings where I cover this.

Of course, Step 1 first: You need to select a goal that is worth the effort. “When you have a big enough ‘WHY’, you can ENJOY any ‘HOW’. Then, the ‘where and when’ becomes ‘here and now’. ” (Deb Maes Quotable 2012). Your values are the key to identifying what is really important to you. Uncovering values can be tricky because they are so intrinsically a part of us that we aren’t even consciously aware of them. But there are ways to discover your values and you’ll find the process fun and revealing. Things seem to just fall into place. It can feel like magic (but we are in truth).

Knowing firsthand the power of our mind, I make sure I do this process every year. I have even put together a workshop, ‘Visioning: with Thinking in Mind’, so others can enjoy these results  (Check ‘Calendar’ for dates).

So, you may like to… start paying attention to what you’re focused on and what you say (inside your mind and out loud), and Enjoy!